Statistics show that nearly 41% of all first time marriages will end in divorce. Second marriages will end in divorce 60% of the time and third marriages end in divorce 73% of the time. If you are going through a divorce, then you know just how stressful and worrisome this process can be. For most couples, avoiding a courtroom showdown is important when trying to hash out the details of a divorce. The best way to keep a divorce out of the courtroom is by going to mediation. During mediation, you and your ex-spouse will work on coming to an agreement that is fair to all parties involved. Below are some of the things you need to consider before divorce remediation.
Go In With the Best Intentions
The main thing you need to focus on when going into mediation is keeping things civil. The last thing anyone involved wants is a knockdown, drag out fight in the mediation room. If you go into this process trying to settle old scores or make your ex-spouse pay for things they have done, it will be very hard to get all of the details ironed out. Rather than going in to fight and bicker, you need to compose yourself and keep things with your ex as civil as possible during the mediation process.
Know the Issues You Want To Address
Before the mediation process begins, you need to make a list of issues that are important to you. Child custody, alimony payments and division of property are some of the most common issues that will need to be hashed out in remediation. By going in with an idea of what you want to address, you will be able to make this process much easier. Make sure to think about the amount of flexibility you have on important issues beforehand. Doing this is the best way to settle complicated matters in the mediation room with ease.
Focus on a Parenting Plan
If there are children involved in a divorce, things can get a bit tricky. While no parent wants to give up time with their children, they will need to be fair to their ex-spouse. It is a good idea to draft up a visitation schedule you are comfortable with before heading to mediation. Often times, the plan you have will not be followed to the letter, but it does allow you to create a jumping off point for negotiations on this important issues.
Staying positive and avoiding drama in the mediation room can help you put this difficult process behind you a lot sooner. Getting help from a family lawyer is essential when trying to make sure you get a fair divorce resolution.
We Can Help You During the Mediation Process?
Do you need legal counsel to help you during your divorce mediation? Call the Law Offices of Aliette H. Carolan, P.A. right now for help. Once you call us, we can schedule a consultation and give you an idea of how we can assist you during this difficult process.